It started off as a saying the cousins learned from our uncles; our version of “Cheers!” that we’d say before taking shots at family parties. It was a fun phrase to get the party started as we pledged to drink “to the death”. But after my cousin only 3 months younger than me died by suicide in 2011 and then my uncle in 2014 due to leukemia, the meaning changed drastically for our entire family. “To da dit” became something more real — a mantra reminding us to never forget how precious our lives are, to appreciate every single day, and most importantly, to appreciate each other.